Absent, missing, empty, loss, grief. The family of experience that explores connection, however fleeting. To truly connect and give freely of Self, one must first experience brief bursts of belonging and bonding. These bursts trigger the diverse layers of emotional yearning and need. That arise when sharing one's affections, love and indeed your actual Self with another living thing.
I emphasise 'thing', for, in these brief interludes of complex but simple linking, the recipient may be animal rather than human. In fact, bonds with animals, and one might conjecture, places too, start the process of 'Giving of Self' quite nicely. For they offer a less complicated relationship, one-sided if you were.
As humans, infants in the emotional arena exploring euphoria and sorrow, love can, and does attract animals. Providing a safer learning ground than the muddy and complicated and sometimes insane human emotional/love landscape. To appreciate that you have a thing, connection, in this case, you need to be able to recognise its presence in your life, Self, environment e.t.c.
Without having experienced its absence, you can not discern and allow the understanding and sensations associated with its presence. Moreover, you can not discern the quality of it either. Insufficient data, if you will. The human is not unlike your computers of today. Insufficient data produces incomplete analyses and hence, incomplete understanding and allowance.
Death is also a key factor in humans; it is inevitable. Therefore, absence prepares the human mind and heart (figuratively speaking) for that loss. To better facilitate the grieving process.
'Better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all' may be a poetic line, but it holds an essential truth within. Without loss, you cannot measure your experience of love. One reality needs the other to create certainty. '
via Sarah Tyler-Walters
The above piece is written by me, via automatic writing. Max, signed his name but I know nothing else about him. Originally published on my wordpress blog - 30 June 2019
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